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Feast of the Holy Family

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Today the Church celebrates the Feast of the Holy Family.  So, what does that mean to (and for) us as monastics?  We came from a family, we still have families and here we live in an intentional family we call community.  We are guided by the simple, yet profound, guidelines designed by St. Benedict, a man of great wisdom, compassion and common sense.  We know that after some time of living with his original Rule, he added advice based on his lived experience with a great variety of characters.  Imagine having to warn his men not to sleep with knives, to wear clean underwear on a trip, for the learned to help those who could not read.  His prudence shines through when, in so many words, he says: this is what works for us now – if the schedule of psalmody, the daily schedule and other daily living details don’t fit your need, change it.

It is the spirit of the Rule that has survived because Benedict, even in his youth, had a deep understanding of human psychology.  A study of his early life tells us that he spent much time with his grandparents who lived a few miles from his home.  Along the trek to their summer home he passed the huts and caves of hermits, wise “seasoned” men and women.  Before Benedict was sent to Rome to pursue academics, he and his twin sister spent hours chit-chatting with these solitary men and women to absorb the wisdom and practical advice from the older generation.  This is evident in the Rule.  Notice how he tempered discipline with compassion and saw the spiritual quest as a joyful pursuit of God within the structures of ordinary life. It is this joyous delight in everyday spirituality that to this day makes the Rule come alive for so many. For over 1500 years his simple principles of living together under God’s love have been applied beyond monasteries, especially by Oblates, to family life.

If we only know the first word of the Rule “LISTEN” what an impact it could make on our own happiness and concord between peoples.  To truly listen requires perception, knowledge of human nature, biting the tongue before speaking and an ‘open-hands’ approach in conversation.  To listen requires an attentive spirit … not a scramble to respond with advice, a witty remark or a one-upmanship story.   When we truly listen we can see that anger is a cover for fear.  When we listen to another we can identify their feelings, let them resonant within and know that very often all the person wants is a signal that we care.

Benedict’s down-to-earth advice works in community, in our intentional family or for any living group, be it for family or dorm or apartment mates because of its inner dynamic. St. Benedict was not writing for an IB or Honors class of students. The Rule is not intended to be a great and lofty treatise on prayer or spirituality. Rather, the Rule is filled with practical guidance for ordinary people to live together. Benedict expected his followers to work hard, study hard and pray hard.  Benedictine life, in or out of a monastery, is a grace-full blend of prayer, work and living together – a simple, effective prayer life, open communication, mutual respect – not for mature saints but for those who choose to walk a path of life-long falling down and getting up in a community where each member is valued and loved unconditionally.

The Rule offers us a very high ideal, but it is a beautiful one, and one that we should never feel compelled to apologize for.   And when we breach the ideal we need to be humble enough to ask forgiveness both from God and from each other.

From that first word in his Rule LISTEN… to his advice to begin every good work with prayer … to keeping a lamp burning at night … to not loitering outside chapel if you are late … it is evident that Benedict saw God at work within the ordinary events of everyday life – in the joys and sorrows of our everyday lives.

So, LISTEN to your heart to your comrades’ hungers and longings, to God deep in your heart … just LISTEN – with your ears, but also with eyes and heart and feelings – and all other aspects of your life, our life in community, will fall into place.

 

~Reflection by Sister Roberta Bailey, OSB

 

 

 

Happy New Year!  Peace to all!

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25th Sunday in Ordinary Time

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This parable is challenging to explain but, it came from the mouth of God’s Son so it must be important for us to grapple with. What might Christ be saying to us? Here is what I heard – colored by the recent readings from chapter 2 of Benedict’s Rule on the Qualities of the Prioress. The Gospel tells us if we can’t be trusted in little matters we certainly cannot be trusted with great ones. If you are not a leader in a Benedictine community it may be easy to breeze through chapter 2 with an attitude of ho, hum – that’s for them – glad it’s not me.

To say that Benedict lays down high standards for the superior may be an understatement. He places the chapter on leadership qualities early in the Rule, only after he defines the type of monk he is writing for. So we know he is writing about the qualities of the leaders of the “strongest kind of monastics” – the ones who have chosen to live under a Rule and a monastic leader.

I am thinking Benedict left it unsaid in Chapter 2, but he sprinkled exhortations regarding leadership for all the members elsewhere in the Rule. Benedict echoes Jesus when he presses home the “the person who is dishonest in very small matters will also be dishonest in great ones.” It does not require a great leap to apply this maxim to all of us – the youngest in community to the eldest. It seems to me Benedict is waving a banner before our eyes of what we each need to be so that a call to leadership does not include an abrupt change of lifestyle. Benedict knew from his own experience that the leader’s role in community is time-limited. He himself had experienced the call to leadership and call to a hermit’s life. He must have foreseen, perhaps with a nudge from his twin sister Scholastica, that the monastic must be prepared in all aspects of her life to move in and out of leadership roles. If the individual member does not engage in a lifelong endeavor to develop the attitudes, skills and qualities that Benedict laid out for the superior, (guess what?) an election or appointment to a leadership position will not ipso facto endow a saintly disposition. If a person has not learned to be accountable for her own actions (or at least tried to be), and to be solicitous for the welfare of those in her charge (as a teacher, principal, supervisor, kitchen manager, sacristan, chief floor scrubber, head nurse….), an imposition of hands or a community blessing, or even the bishop’s blessing will not infuse saintliness: responsibility, accountability, compassion or mercy.

You may remember the lesson of the geese who fly in V formation? As each bird flaps its wings, it creates an uplift for the bird following it. Combined, the whole flock adds 71% greater flying range than if the individual geese flew alone. Whenever a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of trying to fly alone and quickly gets back into formation. When the lead goose gets tired, it rotates back into the formation and another goose flies at the point position. The geese in the formation honk from behind to encourage those in front to keep up their speed.

Note that Benedict does not let the “honkers” off the hook. In speaking of the qualities of the abbot, Benedict intersperses words to the “monks in the pews.” If the prioress is to call the community or individuals to account, the member must be docile to listen. If the prioress is to be a shepherd, the sheep have to be willing to be corralled and led. It’s impossible to lead if no one follows.

Benedict reveals his keen insight into human nature when he talks about the cast of characters who can be gathered into one community. He reminds the leader, and by inclusion, all the members, to “accommodate and adapt themselves to the character and intelligence of their Sisters.” In conclusion, Benedict smiles upon the leader consoling her that she does not lack resources. He quotes Psalm 33: “Those who fear God lack nothing.” In helping others, the leader achieves the amendment of her own faults. Benedict does not mention, but I bet he knew, the gratifying support the prioress or the abbot, (or leaders of any sort) daily receives in unpretentious, quiet affirmations.

Like the story of the geese, in monastic life when the leader gets sick or is shot down (with arrows or words), individual members drop out of formation to help, protect and reaffirm the leader until she is either able to again take the lead or fly in formation with the other members. Jesus reminds us in this parable that, in the end, it doesn’t matter when you came into community, even when you came into the church. The reward for putting your hand to the plow will be the same: a day’s work in the kingdom for God’s daily wage … the last, the same as the first. It’s been that way for all eternity. You’ll find when you get there (I’m guessing) that your view from the mansion God is saving for you is just as magnificent as that of Moses or Adam and Eve or your favorite saints – everyone’s mansion has a “throne-side view” of heavenly glory.

 

P.S.  World Mission Sunday

World Mission Sunday is scheduled for the weekend of October 18-19, 2025, and this year’s theme is “Missionaries of Hope Among All Peoples.” During this Jubilee Year of Hope, the theme is most appropriate, and all are called to engage in missionary work in one form or another, thereby bringing hope to those in despair. This annual worldwide collection helps to provide aid to 1,124 dioceses that cannot sustain themselves because they are too poor, young, or actively persecuted.

 

~Reflection by Sister Roberta Bailey, OSB

 

 

 

First Reading:   Amos 8:4-7         Second Reading:  1 Timothy 2:1-8
Gospel:   Luke 16:1-13
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Let All The Earth Cry Out To God With Joy

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(At the outset let it be understood that what follows may appear to be fiction but it is not. St. Luke shared this with me.)

One day, when the man of God Benedict was doing Lectio and pondering how to incorporate his set of values into his manuscript directed to his followers, St. Luke entered his reverie.  What an inspiration!  Luke and Benedict chatted with each other for a spell.  Look Ben, (said Luke) you’ve consulted the writings of the one you call the Master.  May I suggest you look at my record of the sayings of THE Master.  Compare it with the 10th chapter of my Gospel. Sure enough!  Very many of our special Benedictine values are put forth by THE Master Jesus.  For instance:

+ A SPIRIT of POVERTY: take nothing with you (is how Jesus puts it) No money bags, no suitcase, no canvas bag or pretty tote and no sandals.  Or as you say it in your Rule: “No one may presume to give, receive or retain anything as her own, nothing at all, in short not a single item … no one shall presume ownership of anything. “

+ A SENSE of STABILITY: Jesus advises his followers: Into whatever house you enter, stay in the same house; don’t be moving from one house to another.   Benedict, you describe the first kind of monastics called cenobites.  From what you say, I sense this may be your preferred type of members.  “Those who belong to a particular monastery, where they serve under the rule of a superior.”

+ Further, Benedict, you expect these cenobites to follow Jesus’ way of life, personally and communally, practicing a SPIRIT of SIMPLICITY and ACCEPTANCE of WHATEVER IS AVAILABLE:  In your words:  Eating and drinking whatever is offered to you; whatever is set before you.

Benedict, my friend, you have an obvious understanding of human nature. Could we attribute that to your twin sister’s influence?  She took her turn as cook for her group of women whom she loved as ardently as you looked after the rough and tough gang of men that lived with you. It’s evident in your words: Taking turns serving one another, using an unvoiced system of gestures when anything is required.  And (yes, PLEASE God) it will save you a heap of trouble if you designate a weekly reader to proclaim the Holy Word throughout the meal.

In studying your Rule, Benedict, it seems to go without saying that there will likely be no harmony in the group unless the members all strive to AVOID EVIL and CLING to PEACE.   I (that is Luke) remind my readers: Remember what Jesus said (It’s right there in verse 9). “If peace is not present in the house where you find yourself, go out into the streets and shake the dust from your feet and leave that town.”  When you feel evil rising in you, get in touch with the cause – shame the devil – leave the occasion of sin.

In this weekend’s second reading St. Paul reminds us that we bear the marks of Jesus in our body.  Jesus conquered evil so that we, too, might be part of the new creation. We rejoice with the disciples, reveling as they did in first fervor.  We rejoice because “our names are written in heaven.”  Sing with Isaiah in the First Reading: We rely on the gentle care God has for us: we shall be carried in God’s arms, comforted as a mother comforts her child and fondles the child in her lap and delights in nursing the babe.  That’s the joy that can erupt in the words of tomorrow’s responsorial psalm: LET ALL THE EARTH CRY OUT TO GOD WITH JOY.

~Reflection by Sister Roberta Bailey, OSB

 

Let us remember each other in prayer on Friday, July 11th, the Summer feast of St. Benedict.

 

 

First Reading: Isaiah  66:10-14                     Second Reading: Galatians 6:14-18
Gospel: Luke 10:1-12, 17-20
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Each day is our moment to resist any act of violence against creation.

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This weekend’s first reading, the story of the widow in Elijah’s time, and the Gospel of the widow in Jesus’ time, prompt us to take a hard look at our individual and communal giving practices.  As followers of Jesus Christ, we see clearly that God is the giver of all.  That raises the question: What portion of our blessings do we give back to honor God and build up God’s Kingdom on earth?

In this reflection, instead of emphasizing the spirit of giving often connected with the story of the widow’s mite, I’d like to share some ideas that convey the perspective that it is not all about GIVING.  This summer’s siege of storm devastation and raging fires in the western U.S. is often blamed on changing weather patterns.  But is not much of it due to poor land management, human carelessness and a growing history of trying to control the forces of nature?  The Benedictine value of STEWARDSHIP (preserving the earth and respecting people) calls us to responsible care rather than oppressive authoritative dominance.  Our current readings from the Rule of Benedict remind us: “Treat all things as INSTRUMENTS of the ALTAR.”  “A good word is better than the best gift.”  Living out the Benedictine value of prudent stewardship can require a radical shift in our thinking lest we too easily become accustomed to regarding earth’s resources as if they had no intrinsic worth.  For example, the demand for fast, prepackaged food contributes to the stripping of rain forests in order to provide pastureland.  In the process, many Indigenous peoples have been rendered homeless, and the habitat of endangered species has been lost forever.  Advances have been made in the production of biodegradable substances but so far, it’s only resulted in a reduction in the time it takes plastics and Styrofoam to disintegrate – they still constitute a hazard to the environment.

One of the biggest offenders is plastic bottles.  In landfills toxic gases are leached into the environment causing a variety of health issues.  Landfills in the U.S. have over 2- million discarded plastic bottles that each take up to 1,000 years to decompose.  How many thousand years did we toss into the landfill this week?  In the last month?  Trying to conserve by switching from plastic to glass containers is foiled here in our county because glass is not recycled.  Our primary motivation is that all (now and in the future) may have a share in God’s gifts. We have to think bigger than the cash register. Each day is our moment to resist any act of violence against creation.

We wrestle prayerfully with questions about how we can adopt, and adapt, to a simpler lifestyle: letting go of some things, being patient when our preferences are denied by unavailability of pantry supplies. We have to start where we are, doing what we can, with the insight and energy we have to make a difference.  Maybe we begin with one thing, one purchase, one habit a month that we change.  For example: spend a few pennies more to make a purchase from a local vendor that you usually make at a big box store.  Or make a pint or gallon purchase of hand soap instead of several smaller bottles.    Run 2-sided copies and use scrap paper for note pads. After a month, don’t forsake the new habit, keep it up and add a new pattern.  By the end of the year, you’ll be 12x more conservative.  You may ask: how does doing any of this help the people in the 3rd world?  The truth is, it doesn’t directly.  It changes YOU.   At the heart of our actions must rest the conviction that our world belongs to God and any misuse dishonors the Creator.

The widow in the Gospel was made destitute by life’s circumstances.  We by no means live a life of destitution – but we know people who do.  We are invited to ask ourselves: What can I, what can we, do to reverse the destructive patterns of life that are making a negative impact on our earth and in the lives of those we profess to serve?  In the mix, is the challenge THINK GLOBAL, ACT LOCAL.  Each day we are challenged to figure out what to do with our “too much”?  The answer is NOT to find an empty shelf, an empty room, to store it.  If we are not using it, do we REALLY need it? If we haven’t worn it since we moved into this building, who could use it?  If we have forgotten we ever had it, did we ever really need it?  Are we saving it because, deep down, we don’t trust God to come through for us on a “rainy day?”  We can only give from our need if we trust (really and truly deep down) that God will provide.   We can sing God’s praises with Elijah’s widow in tomorrow’s first reading because, for nigh on 137 years, our community “jar of flour has not gone empty” and “our jug of oil has never run dry”.

~Reflection by Sister Roberta Bailey, OSB

 

 

Thank God for the gift that Veterans have offered for our nation and for world peace ….   Remember, too, the families of veterans …  their lives too were, and are, affected by the impact on service women and me …  witnessing the effects of turmoil between peoples and nations.  Pray for strength for veterans and their families to be compassionate, supportive, faithful to relationships and seeking available medical and mental services.    

Have a good week!

 

First Reading:  Kings 17:10-16                 Second Reading:  Hebrews 9:24-28
Gospel:  Mark 12:38-44
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“When we become aware of our humility, we’ve lost it.”

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Here we have two brothers, who belong to the innermost circle of Jesus’ disciples, trying to insure they get special privilege in the kingdom to come.  But listen to Jesus: “The last be shall first and the first shall be last.”  Greatness, He says, consists not in what we have, or what we can get from others but in what we can give of ourselves to others.  Jesus asks us: Can you drink the cup I am going to drink?  These two brothers, in their eager ignorance, answer without hesitation: “No problem!”

For us as Benedictines – in Benedict’s view, we are all called to cultivate a humble awareness of our place in creation.  Being humble requires an unassuming trust in God’s providence.  For St. Benedict, everything a monastic does must be credited for the glory of God.  That’s why we were created.  Remember your Baltimore catechism?  We were made to know, love and serve God.  A fifth century monk says it well: A proud monk needs no demon. He has turned into one, an enemy to himself.

In our own lifetime, Mother Teresa gives us a few ways to practice humility that sound much like Benedict’s steps of humility.

 

To speak as little as possible of one’s self.

To mind one’s own business.

Not to want to manage other people’s affairs.

To avoid curiosity.

To accept contradictions and correction cheerfully.

To pass over the mistakes of others.

To accept insults and injuries.

To accept being slighted, forgotten and disliked.

To be kind and gentle even under provocation.

Never to stand on one’s dignity.

To choose always the hardest.

 

Words from Prayer for Humility by an Anonymous Abbess is worth pondering line by line.

Lord, you know better than myself that I am growing older and will soon be old. Keep me from becoming too talkative, and especially from the unfortunate habit of thinking that I must say something on every subject and at every opportunity.

Release me from the idea that I must straighten out other peoples’ affairs. With my immense treasure of experience and wisdom, it seems a pity not to let everybody partake of it. But You know, Lord, that in the end I will need a few friends.

Keep me from the recital of endless details; give me wings to get to the point.

Grant me the patience to listen to the complaints of others; help me to endure them with charity. But seal my lips on my own aches and pains — they increase with the increasing years and my inclination to recount them is also increasing.

I will not ask you for improved memory, only for a little more humility and less self-assurance when my own memory doesn’t agree with that of others. Teach me the glorious lesson that occasionally I may be wrong.

Keep me reasonably gentle. I do not have the ambition to become a saint — it is so hard to live with some of them — but a harsh old person is one of the devil’s masterpieces.

Make me sympathetic without being sentimental, helpful but not bossy. Let me discover merits where I had not expected them, and talents in people whom I had not thought to possess any. And, Lord, give me the grace to tell them so.

AMEN

 

~Reflection by Sister Roberta Bailey, OSB

 

 

 

Thank God for blessings received; pray for those who were no so fortunate.

 

 

First Reading:   Isaiah 53:10-11         Second Reading:  Hebrews 4:14-16
Gospel:   Mark 10:35-45
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16th Sunday of Ordinary Time

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These last few weeks seems like the church is singing the message of a Willie Nelson ballad, On the Road Again. “I just can’t wait to get on the road again.  Goin’ places that I’ve never been; seein’ things that I may never see again. The life I love is makin’ music with my friends.  Just can’t wait to get on the road again.”

This weekend the Evangelist Mark gives us an example of the kind of tension that exists in our own lives and in the life of every committed Christian.  On the one hand, we feel drawn away to a quiet place.  At the same time, we feel the almost constant demands on our commitment “to respond to the needs of God’s people.” We want to respond generously where there is a real need.  But, how do we know what is a ‘real need’ and what is just our own desire be needed, to “play savior”?  There are times when, no matter how weary we feel, we know we should say ‘Yes’. Other times, in spite of any criticism it may generate, we feel we are inclined to say ‘No’.  At times in the life of Jesus, we see him leaving the people, in spite of their demands, and going away to pray.  This kind of rest is not laziness or irresponsibility.  This is the Sabbath rest Fr. John recommends: mercy and compassion over sacrifice.

Last weekend the apostles were sent out two-by-two. Today, they are re-gathering two-by-two.  They are exhilarated, but exhausted. They are on their own for the first time without Jesus.  They had preached, cast out demons, anointed the sick, and called people to respond to Jesus’ message.   Now Jesus invites them (and us) to “come away to a deserted place, all by yourselves and rest a while.”  Notice there are four parts to Jesus’ invitation: “Come away – to a deserted place – all by yourself – and rest a while.”  Each phrase means something on its own, but no single phrase stands alone.  We have to accept the whole package.

We must be on guard that we don’t wear busy-ness as if it were a badge of honor.  Wearing a button that goes “blink, blink” and proclaims an implicit message:  “I’m worthwhile because I’m so busy and I’m always tired” equals “I’m important”.  But busy-ness is not a badge of honor!  On the contrary, it is the mark of a life way out of balance.  It is NOT Benedictine!

Jesus said: “Come away.”  He did not say “Go away.”  His is an invitation to a communal experience.   It’s “coming away” to be with Jesus.  What a beautiful invitation!  If we don’t rest, we won’t be able to take care of the self.  Without self-care we will be of no use to anyone, especially God.

As Jesus listened to each of the two-by-two teams give their reports, he was moved by their tender stories of healing children, inspiring people, and boldly witnessing to Jesus’ words.  At the same time, He must have seen fatigue in their faces and so, in a gracious moment of concern, Jesus said to them: “Come away for a while and rest.” Jesus made no suggestion that their ministry of witness and compassion was over, but he offered them a respite. They got into a boat and headed off for the first Christian retreat.

And you know what greeted them!  Over 5,000 figured out where the boat was going and got there ahead of them.  Imagine how the disciples must have felt!  They had had visions of having a little quiet time with Jesus.  But like Jesus, the disciples’ hearts were moved to pity. They set personal wishes aside in deference to the needs of others as Benedict says in RB 72, “No one is to pursue what she judges better for herself, but instead, what she judges better for someone else.”

We know for sure, that there is weariness in ministry.  And we know as well that weariness is no excuse to quit and let others pick up the slack. Somehow, we must discover Jesus’ compassion for the crowd within our own heart.  It’s just not as easy as it sounds.

Several years ago a health study determined there are three main reasons people can’t cope with the demands in their lives:   1. they live in the past,  2. they have a low self-esteem and 3. they can’t laugh at themselves.   The study indicated that we need approximately 12 laughs a day to stay healthy! Yes, life throws us curve balls just when we least expect it (like being paged just when we finally got a chance to zone out for a few minutes).  To stay sane, we need to sit back and enjoy a good laugh.  So, here’s your laugh-vacation for today.  Not long ago a lady I know sent flowers to her friend who had opened a new restaurant. When she arrived at the grand opening, she looked for the flowers. Imagine her consternation when she found them, and saw that, in her haste in placing the order, she had sent a white wreath with a card that said, “May you rest in peace.” She panicked, of course, and called the florist who said, “Honey, I’m not worried about you because as we speak, there’s a lady being buried across town who got a dozen roses with a note that read, ‘Good luck in your new location!”

~Reflection by Sister Roberta Bailey, OSB

 

 

 

First Reading:   Jeremiah 23:1-6         Second Reading:  Ephesians 2:13-18
Gospel:   Mark 6:30-34
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