Benedictine Sisters of FL

Holy Name Monastery
Founded 1889

Wedding

Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today.

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“Is now a good time?”  “Did I catch you at a good time?”  “Are you busy?”   The phone rings and the caller says: “Can you take a call now?”  Surely I am not the only one who experiences these kinds of happenings.  Some may call them “distractions” or “interruptions.”  They may come in the form of phone calls, emails, text messages, a “I’ve just got a quick question” kind of pop-in visitor from down the hall, or even, an unexpected guest at the monastery (yes, even in these days).  It always seems to happen when you’re on a roll with your “important” work.  Like when you have a deadline to meet, or you’re finally able to cross something off your old “to do” list, or just when you thought you could take a break.  But … we all know what St. Benedict says about guests – they are always present in monasteries, you can’t predict when they may appear, they are to be welcomed in whatever state they arrive and greeted with: “A shout – THANKS BE TO GOD!”  [Not, Oh, God, not her again!]

Maybe you’ve heard the tale about the day the Prince of Wales dropped in on a workingman’s family.  The next day the man told his friends, “I never expected him, nor did my wife.  The house was so untidy, and I hadn’t washed up yet.  We can never forgive ourselves.  If we had known he was coming, we should have been ready for him.”

John Wesley, founder of the Methodist Church movement, was asked what he would do if he knew his Lord would return at same time the next day.  He said in effect, “I would go to bed and go to sleep; wake up in the morning, and go on with my work, for I would want the Lord to find me doing what I was appointed to do.”

Or how about the busy couple who had grown increasingly frustrated by a stranger who kept popping up unannounced at their home.  It was always when they seemed to be the most busy.  The visitor never asked for anything, she’d just drop by to say hello, pet the cat who lazed on the front porch and share a little chit-chat.  One day the woman of the house was home alone when this happened.  In exasperation she blurted out, “The trouble with Christ is, he always comes at the wrong time.”   Or, perhaps – it’s perfect timing???

You may ask: What’s does all this have to do with the Parable of the Ten Virgins?  So who are these virgins?  [We’ve seen “Fiddler on the Roof” so we think we know all about Jewish weddings.]  What we really do know is, from Jewish culture, that a wedding celebration was for the whole town.  One of the acts of entertainment was to have ten virgins perform a wedding dance.  They would hold lamps or lighted torches and perform a torch-dance.  It would symbolize the light of the newly wed couple’s love and the bright future they had together.  The dancers would entertain until their torches burned out.

This is who the parable is about.  These dancing virgins.  [Today we’d say “bridesmaids.”]  Remember, this is a parable – so each member of the parable represents someone or something in real life.  In such parables, the bridegroom is always Christ.  Though the bride is not actually mentioned in this parable, every bridegroom must have a bride.  The bride is a symbol of the church.  And the church is made up of people.  After the Wedding Ceremony and then the Wedding Supper the bride and groom would go out into the city and invite the people to join them in celebrating their wedding.  [Remember a couple Sunday’s back, we had the parable of the wedding guests who thumbed their noses at the king’s invitation to his son’s wedding.  Where did the king tell his servants to go to round up some guests – into the byways, the outskirts of the city.]

When the guests had gathered, this is when the torch-dance happened.  The dance continued as long as one’s touch lasted… which could be up to a maximum of fifteen minutes.  That explains why the wise virgins had a backup supply of oil.  It wasn’t, as some might think, to keep a light burning the 6-8 hours that it took for the wedding ceremony and supper.  During that time, they never knew when the bridegroom would come and give the signal for the entertainment to begin.  That’s when they’d light those torches and when the first firing petered out you’d hear: “Come on, Girls, let’s re-soak these torches – keep this celebration going!  It’s not over until it’s over – until the last torch flickers out.”

One more story.  An acquaintance of mine was diagnosed with an incurable illness.  A friend asked her what she was going to do with her life in her remaining days.  She was thinking that her friend might go on a mission trip; she knew that was on her friend’s bucket list.  The woman pondered a short time and then answered thoughtfully that she going to live her life as faithfully as possible for whatever time God granted her. …. I’m here to tell you, she’s still alive 20 years later.

Isn’t that how we all are to be prepared for the future?  LIVE AS FAITHFULLY AS POSSIBLE.  To be prepared with extra oil, yes …  with prayer, faithfulness to lectio and the performance of good works?  The Scriptures and St. Benedict remind us: Our guest, Christ, will come at an unexpected hour.  Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today.

~Reflection by Sister Roberta Bailey, OSB, Prioress

 

First Reading: Wisdom 6:12-15     Second Reading: 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18
Gospel:  Matthew 25:1-13
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A Miracle – A Mantra

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The miracle at Cana has never ceased happening.  Every moment of every day Christ pours himself into the empty jars of our lives.  He is the good wine; extravagant, abundant, endless.  We can’t understand how it happens.  We don’t know how it happens.  We only know that it does happen.  We’ve experienced it and witnessed moments when death is turned into life, sorrow into joy, and despair into hope.  We’ve been surprised when fear was transformed into courage and we’ve seen people do things they never thought possible.  We’ve done what we thought was impossible!  We’ve known moments when empty lives have been filled back up.

(There is a repeating refrain here- a mantra – please, join in if you like …)

When the wine runs out and you are confused – but others are looking for answers – DO WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU.

When the wine runs out, and troubles swirl about you so your head is a muddle … DO WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU.

When the wine runs out, and your “umph” does, too DO WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU.

When the wine runs out, and you know aridity and still you struggle to be upbeat … DO WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU.

When the wine runs out, when a loved one dies or a friendship withers, DO WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU.

When good intentions don’t fill the void but only seem to pave the road to you-know-where – DO WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU.

When prayers seem to be unheard, listen closely and DO WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU.

When your illusion of self-sufficiency is shattered and your spirit is empty and you shake your water jar and hear the sound of hollowness, don’t despair – just … DO WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU.

When the day is a disaster, an embarrassment, a failure, grab your empty jar, fill it with what water of your tears and DO WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU.

When the wine is running low, and no one else seems to notice, tell Him, and, then DO WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU.

When self-doubt abounds and life seems meaningless, He is there: DO WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU.

When life lacks vibrancy and the future is colorless, fill the jar with the water of common life, not bottled water, not Dasani or Zephyrhills water … the water of your everyday life, and DO WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU.

When hope wears thin and faith is shaky DO WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU.

When you’re filled with guilt for deeds left undone and offenses given, bend your knee and bow your head and, DO WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU.

When you have more questions than answers, here’s an answer for any query … DO WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU.

When life is full of changes that threaten, lean into the One who is changeless, DO WHAT EVER HE TELL YOU.

When your best efforts fall short and your life-glass looks more than half-empty, breathe deeply and, DO WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU.

“They have no wine,” Mary said. But they will. The miracle always begins when the wine gives out.  Regardless of how it feels or what we think about it, the day the wine runs out is the beginning of a miracle.  Christ does not simply refill our glasses.  He transforms our lives, turning water into wine.  That which was colorless becomes vibrant.  That which had no taste now tingles the tongue.  That which had no fragrance now has a full bouquet.

Simply remember this – plant it in your heart: when the wine runs out DO WHATEVER HE TELLS YOU.

~Reflection by Sister Roberta Bailey, OSB, Prioress
January 20, 2019  (Wedding at Cana)
First Reading Isaiah 62:1-5            Second Reading 1 Corinthians12:4-11
Gospel John 21:11
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What are you Wearing to the Banquet?

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Have you ever watched a make-over program on TV?  I’ve watched a few on house make-overs.  While pondering this week’s Gospel I recalled a time when channel surfing that I was attracted by this girl’s plea to get her boyfriend to dress appropriately for a wedding they were going to attend. It was one of those makeover shows where a person gets their entire wardrobe revamped by some hip and fashionable person who does this sort of thing for a living.  Seems like it could be a good alternative for the man who got thrown out of the wedding in today’s Gospel.  Though some guys might think the odds were even: forced into a make-over or getting to escape the whole ordeal – bound hand and foot, yes, but at least he could get away.

The commentator on the TV show was relating the guy’s background.  Seems he had no fashion sense.  As these shows go, they took him – he seemed to go without protest – to an up-scale clothing store for a new wardrobe that would make him acceptable at the wedding – at least in the eyes of his girlfriend.  He watched helplessly as his favorite clothes were thrown in the trash and replaced with more “fashionable items.”  These people didn’t care what this person did for a living; how he treated his friends and neighbors.  They didn’t ask about his spiritual life or his financial situation.  Fashion was paramount!

The party in today’s Gospel would have been a highlight in many people’s lives.  FREE food, hobnobbing with people whose names they’d only heard in passing.  Why would they not jump at the chance to be a guest at such a fantastic occasion?  But, you just throw a party yourself and you will quickly figure out that some who say “yes” won’t show and a goodly number will figure you knew they’d come so they did not really need to RSVP.

The people Jesus was telling this parable to were not stupid. They understood the absurdity of the situation. They knew that Jesus was not simply telling them a strange story but that he was telling them something about their own lives.  He was in essence telling them that they were the invited guests and that they had refused the invitation. They understood that the servants who came to tell them about the banquet were the prophets.  They understood that Jesus was telling them that the kingdom of God is open to EVERYONE, to the outcasts and the sinners and to them.

But Jesus doesn’t stop his parable with that. He goes on to say that once the street-people had been invited in to the banquet the king spotted someone who wasn’t properly dressed.  When asked why, the man was speechless.  The king demanded that he be handcuffed and thrown into the outer darkness.  How are we to understand this part of the parable?  Why was lack of a certain type of garment such a big deal?

Some say the king invited everyone so people should come just as they happen to be when they decided to join the banquet.  Others argue it means we should be given a special robe at the door of the church to wear during the service.  Of course, these answers miss the point. This is a story that has a deeper meaning.  Yes, it is a story, but remember parables are earthly stories with heavenly ­ meanings.

I find it intriguing that the last group brought into the wedding came from the hedgerows and byways but the main character was still expected to be wearing a wedding garment.  This let us know, doesn’t it, that we better be ready at all times to come to the wedding.

The point, of course, is not what type of clothing covers our nakedness.  At some stage in life we’ve all learned that although not the most important thing in life, fashion is not something to be totally ignored either.  Just ask anyone who is getting married, or celebrating a jubilee or going to a funeral, if what people wear isn’t of some significance.  At one end of the spectrum, there are folks who believe brand name labels are the key to admittance into their coveted social circle.  But for others, fashion is just not a big deal at all.  It’s pretty obvious they probably don’t own a full-length mirror.

The wedding garment Jesus is talking about was probably just a nice set of clothes used for special occasions, much like today we’d call our “Sunday-go-go-meeting” clothes.  If this is the case, then the guest without a wedding garment is an underdressed attendee.  The gesture would be an offensive sign that the guest is oblivious to the significance of the occasion and the prestige of being included on the guest list.

Even though everyone is invited into the banquet of the kingdom of heaven, there will be some who simply don’t send back their RSVP card.  There will be those who show up but do so without the proper spiritual clothing and are sent away.  The reading leaves us with that same probing question we first heard in our mother’s voice: “You’re wearing that?!”  We quickly recognized it was not really a question but an order.

Maybe a good place to start redoing our spiritual wardrobes would be to heed St. Paul’s admonition to the Colossians (3:13): “As God’s chosen people … clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.”  Just be sure you’re wearing the proper attire when Jesus makes His final call.  When He says: “Come in, Friend, there’s a seat with your name on it.“

~Reflection by S. Roberta Bailey, OSB, Prioress
October 12, 2014  First Reading Isaiah 25:6-10a         Second Reading  Philippians 4:12-14,19-20
Gospel Matthew 22:1-14
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